She married Gough Whitlam a Royal Australian Air Force officer in April 1942 in St Michael's Church of England, Vaucluse. Gough's 194 cm height was one of the reasons that Margaret described him as "quite the most delicious thing I'd ever seen". Her husband was elected to federal parliament in 1952 and became federal opposition leader and parliamentary leader of the Australian Labor Party in 1967. Margaret was described as "deeply and loyally in love" with her husband. Together, they had four children: Tony, who has been a barrister, a federal MP and a judge; Nicholas, who became a prominent merchant banker and businessman; Stephen, a diplomat, and Caroline Whitlam, who later changed her name to Catherine Dovey after she lost a job because of her family name; she is married to former News LimitedChief Executive OfficerKim Williams. In between Stephen and Catherine, in about 1952 or 1953, Margaret Whitlam had miscarried another child.
Advocacy and public life
Upon Gough Whitlam's election as Prime Minister, Margaret Whitlam quickly became known as an outspoken advocate for issues including women's rights, particularly abortion law reform and conservation; influenced by Germaine Greer. She faced widespread public criticism about her proactive role; however she refused to limit herself to traditional preconceptions. She was a regular guest speaker on radio and television, and wrote a column for the magazine Woman's Day, where she offered an insight into the life of a prime minister's wife. Whitlam was outspoken about the dismissal of the Whitlam government in 1975, saying she told her husband that he should have torn up the letter of dismissal from the Governor-General, Sir John Kerr. , for the national apology to the Stolen Generations in 2008 After the end of her husband's political career, Whitlam held a number of public and cultural offices, including serving as inaugural chair of the Australian Opera Conference; and on the boards of Sydney Dance Company between 1977 and 1982; International Literacy Year, International Women's Year, and the Law Foundation of New South Wales. In 2006, she criticised Janette Howard, wife of then-Prime Minister John Howard, for what she considered a lack of commitment to community activities. Mrs Whitlam also criticised Mrs Howard for having no sense of humour and that she should not be holding hands with her husband in public. Mrs Howard declined to comment on Mrs Whitlam's criticism.
Whitlam died in a Sydney hospital on 17 March 2012, following a fall. The Whitlam family declined an offer from the Australian Government for a state funeral. A memorial service was held in St James' Church, Sydney on 23 March 2012. The Rev Andrew Sempell gave the sermon, taking love as his theme, using readings from Isaiah 43:1–5 & 1 Corinthians 13. He said: "Margaret Whitlam was indeed a gifted and talented person who used her abilities for the benefit of others, and we celebrate that." The service was attended by her widower Gough Whitlam, Prime Minister Julia Gillard, former Prime MinistersMalcolm Fraser, Bob Hawke, Paul Keating and Kevin Rudd, as well as other present and past politicians.