Lady Idina Sackville


Lady Myra Idina Sackville was an English aristocrat and member of the Happy Valley set. Her behaviour and lifestyle scandalised middle class society.

Early life

Lady Myra Idina Sackville was born on 26 February 1893 and was known by her middle name, Idina. She was the daughter of Gilbert Sackville, 8th Earl De La Warr and the former Lady Muriel Agnes Brassey. She had two younger siblings, sister Lady Avice and brother Herbrand Sackville, 9th Earl De La Warr. After her mother died in August 1930, her father remarried to Hilda Mary Clavering Tredcroft, daughter of Colonel Charles Lennox Tredcroft.
Her paternal grandparents were Reginald Sackville, 7th Earl De La Warr and the Hon. Constance Baillie-Cochrane. Her cousin was the writer Vita Sackville-West. Her mother was the daughter of Thomas Brassey, 1st Earl Brassey, and Anna Allnutt. Her uncle was Thomas Brassey, 2nd Earl Brassey and her aunt was Marie Freeman-Thomas, Marchioness of Willingdon.

Personal life

Lady Idina was married, and divorced, five times throughout her lifetime. At the age of 20, she married Rt. Hon. Captain David Euan Wallace, the son of John Wallace of Glassingall, on 26 November 1913. In homage to her childhood home, Lady Idina designed Kildonan House, Barrhill, South Ayrshire with the architect James Miller. She never saw the building finished, however, having split from Wallace before its completion. Before their divorce in 1919, they were the parents of two sons:
After their divorce, her first husband took custody of their sons and he remarried to Barbara Lutyens in May 1920.
On 27 March 1919, she married Capt. Charles Gordon of Park Hill, Aberdeen, the second son of Alexander Gordon-Cuming-Skene of Pitlurg and the former Ada Wilson. They moved to Kenya in 1919. They divorced, without issue, in 1923.
On 22 September 1923, she married for the third time, to Josslyn Hay, Lord Kilmarnock and was thus styled Lady Kilmarnock. They moved to Kenya in 1924, financing the move with Idina's money. Their home was a bungalow on the slopes of the Aberdare Range which they called Slains, after the former Hay family seat of Slains Castle which had been sold by Hay's grandfather, the 20th Earl, in 1916. The bungalow was sited alongside the high altitude farms which other white Kenyans were establishing at the time. After his father's death in 1928, he became the 22nd Earl of Erroll and Idina became the Countess of Erroll. The Happy Valley set were a group of elite, colonial expatriates who became notorious for drug use, drinking, adultery and promiscuity, among other things. Her husband soon became a part of this group and accumulated debts. Before Lady Idina divorced him in 1929 because he was cheating her financially, they were the parents of one child:
After their divorce, their daughter was taken home to England to be raised firstly by her uncle Herbrand Sackville, 9th Earl De La Warr, and then by her aunt Lady Avice Spicer in Wiltshire. In 1930, Lord Erroll married Edith Maude Ramsay-Hill, who had been named in their divorce. She died in 1939 and the following year, Lord Erroll met, and subsequently had an affair with Diana, Lady Broughton, the wife of Sir Jock Delves Broughton, Bt. Sir Jock found out about the affair and in 1941, Lord Erroll was found shot dead in his Buick in Kenya. The murder was never solved but Sir Jock committed suicide not long thereafter.
On 22 November 1930, Lady Idina married Donald Carmichael Haldeman, at the Shoreham Register Office in London. Haldeman, an Eton graduate and former soldier with the 19th Royal Hussars, was a son of John Haldeman. They divorced in 1938, without issue. In 1939, she married F/Lt William Vincent Soltau of the Royal Air Force. They divorced, without issue, in 1946.
Lady Idina died in 1955 at the age of 62. Soltau died on 1 August 1964.

Descendants

Through her eldest son David, she was a grandmother of Cary Davina Wallace, and Laura Jacqueline Wallace, who married Dominic Paul Morland in 1963, and, secondly, Keith Fitchett, in 2003.

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